The goals we set ourselves in life concern the things we care about.
Looking behind us, most of us can spot a variety of mishaps and failures. This often leads us to not set new goals for fear of not being able to achieve them. But why leave dreams unfulfilled? Instead of backing down, you just need a system that works.
Imagine the year of change. Let’s imagine that twelve months have passed, and that we have finally achieved our personal and professional goals.
The 5 concepts to improve one’s life
This program has been designed to help you find clarity, develop goals, and leverage the courage needed to achieve these goals, to make the year you face the best in your life.
The article is based on five basic concepts:
- Real life is multifaceted ; there are 10 domains linked together: Spiritual, Intellectual, Emotional, Physical, Marital, Parental, Social, Professional, Amateur, Economic.
- Each of these domains is important . Being interconnected, everyone must be treated if we want to achieve success.
- Progress can only begin when you truly understand where you are now .
- You can improve each of these domains .
- Safety , happiness and satisfaction are the result of personal growth.
If we don’t believe we can achieve our goals, we will surely fail.
Break down uncertainties and believe in possibilities
If we improve the way we see things, our situation often changes.
Our expectations determine what we believe is possible. As a result, they also shape our perceptions and actions. This means that they determine the results.
And therefore also our reality. One of the biggest obstacles we encounter in reaching a goal is the uncertainty of doing it. Past disappointments and defeats make us develop a cynical self-defense mechanism.
Each of us has beliefs that limit what we believe is possible. These beliefs concern the world, others and ourselves. Four signs to recognize them are: thinking in white-or-black, personalizing, catastrophizing and universalizing.
Where do these beliefs come from? They often arise from our past experiences and disappointments, but equally often we are influenced by the mass media, social media or our past relationships.
How can we go about changing the situation? We must replace these limiting beliefs with liberating truths.
We can use these six steps: Recognize, Register, Review, Reject / Re-team, Review, and finally Reorient.
- Recognize the power of your beliefs
- Compare the limiting ones
- Update your beliefs
Complete the past to improve the future
We often fail to focus on the future because we are too focused on the past.
We cannot complete the past without recognizing what has happened to us. If we try to ignore it, it will come back to sabotage everything we try to do. This process is divided into four phases: declaring what we wanted to happen, recognizing what actually happened, learning from experience, changing our behavior. In this way, we can transform regret into opportunity.
Another fundamental element for our process is gratitude. It keeps our hopes alive, reminds us that we have the opportunity to act, increases our patience, and increases our responses. Documenting what we are grateful for in writing can help us focus on the positive things, as well as being useful for future reflections.
We will not be able to get what we want without first being grateful for what we already have.
- Analyze it later
- Find the aspect of regret growth
- Document your gratitude
Use writing to plan the future
Written goals tend to stay.
Writing is a passage that allows us to concretely see what we are planning. The best objectives are based on 7 principles, an in-depth version of the SMART model – the SMARTER.
The objectives must be:
- Specific (specific) – not “learning photography”, but “completing the photography course”;
- Measurable (measurable) – not “lose weight”, but “lose 5 pounds”;
- Actionable – not “be more productive”, but “publish 5 articles per week”;
- Risky (risky) – don’t try to limit the damage, focus on increasing the benefits;
- Time-keyed – don’t “do more physical activity”, but “run 30 minutes a day”;
- Exciting – if a goal does not stimulate us, it will be difficult to find the motivation;
- Relevant – they must tune in to our aspirations and desires.
We must distinguish between two types of objectives: the goals, which give satisfaction in the moment of achievement, and the habits that are built up over time.
GOAL: read 50 books by the end of the year
HABIT: read for 45 minutes every evening at 20:00
There are 3 “zones” in which we can frame our objectives: the zone of ease, the zone of unease and the zone of illusion. Staying in the comfort zone will not give us the push, but it is equally important not to flow into the illusion zone with impossible objectives, out of our reach. Once we understand the value of operating outside our comfortable zone, we can stop resisting and concentrate on the steps to take.
- Choose and define your goals
- Find the right balance between goals and habits
- Set goals outside your comfortable zone
The principles to never give up
While we are in the middle of a project, it may happen that strength is lacking.
- We live in a world of instant bonuses, and when the path is long, the temptation to drop everything gets stronger. To combat it, we can use five principles:
- the perspective – let’s look at the careers of other great leaders. Seeing the obstacles they have faced will help us not to fall for the “easy and instant victory” deception;
- a new framework – if we try to frame our frustrations, we often find the foothold to relaunch ourselves;
- self-understanding – doing something wrong is better than doing nothing;
- a sense of action – the opposite of the belief that something is due to us. We must act to get it;
- your why – why is it important to you?
It is important to identify what drives us to want something. Writing what are the reasons that make us pursue a goal helps us keep them in mind. If we believe we are losing the course, a simple rereading is often enough to get back on the road. We need to connect with our motivations, not only on an intellectual level, but also on an emotional level.
Another fundamental aspect of our path lies in the people around us, especially in achieving goals. Surrounding yourself with the right people can in fact increase your chances of success.
These relationships are fundamental in four aspects: learning, encouragement, responsibility and competitiveness. Depending on what our goal is, there are likely to be others with the same intentions.
Choosing carefully the people to surround yourself with can make the difference between a goal achieved and an abandoned one.
- Connect with your “why”
- Become master of your motivation
- Build your team
The first step to reach the goal
Planning is not enough. Actions are needed to achieve goals.
The most important, but often also the most difficult, step is the first. Especially if a goal is large, we risk being overwhelmed by the fact that we do not clearly see the end of it. But the important thing is not to see the end, it is to see the next step.
Decomposing a target into small businesses makes it more manageable. It allows us to have clear ideas about the next moves. Starting with a simple task may seem counterintuitive, but if we do a simple task, satisfaction will give us a push to move forward.
A very useful tool are trigger mechanisms. They help us anticipate eventualities, and be ready to deal with them. Everyone must experiment and find the ones that work best.
Over time, one of the risks we run is to lose the sense of what we are doing. A review process helps us prevent this from happening. A daily review of the tasks helps us to frame our activities with respect to what is the biggest goal. A weekly review helps us keep our motivation in the foreground and plan the next steps. A quarterly review instead allows a more global analysis of our progress.
There are five possible activities in this type of review:
- Rejoyce – rejoicing in what we have achieved helps us to continue
- Recommit – renew our commitments, especially in times of strong doubt
- Revise – if the goal is no longer achievable, review it to make it feasible
- Remove – if it is not revisable, remove it from the list
- Replace – if you have removed a target, replace it with another
- Break down goals into manageable activities
- Use trigger mechanisms
- Schedule periodic reviews
The LEAP principle for experiencing a change
The law of intent that reduces tells us that the more time passes before we act, the less likely we are to do it. If we want to experience a change, we must be ready to make a leap (LEAP).
- Lean (lean) – when a change is needed, press on the accelerator.
- Engage (committed) – work on the concept until clarity, don’t let it pass.
- Activate – do something, even if it’s just about getting to the next step.
- Pounce (jump) – do it, don’t wait. Waiting seems safe, but it kills dreams.