8 ways to regain kindness in the world of work

Everyone has a special place in his mind, from which all that is good comes.
If you can find this place, you can use it as a spark to change your life.
It’s about challenging what has become normal .

A world ruled by bullies

Social media has undoubtedly become a highly politicized world, in which many of us scream out their ideas. The more time passes, the more it seems that every post we read is written by an extremist. Yet behind this verbal violence, ordinary people are hiding, our colleagues and our neighbors.

We are convinced of participating in political life, but what happens on social networks, in reality, does nothing but distract us from real politics, it keeps us engaged while politics takes place in the real world.

This detachment that is being created has the consequence of strengthening our ideas, as we are exposed to content selected by algorithms that serve us what interests us, and know our ideas. The result is that we are losing that sense of objectivity that allows us to evaluate other people’s points of view as well, and that is fundamental for acting in a civil society.

This phenomenon is also intensifying in the world of work, where we increasingly see leaders capable of achieving extraordinary goals, but who, by their own admission, do not have the so-called  soft skills , those interpersonal skills that allow us to work with other people, discuss ideas, get feedback, etc.

These individuals often have behaviors that would be considered unacceptable to any other person, but given their status, they are considered as a particularity and nothing more.

We would never accept a leader who confesses that he does not have the slightest idea of ​​how the business world works, or that he does not know his customers. So why are we willing to accept the lack of soft skills? In most cases, these are behavioral patterns that have been going on for years, and we have simply learned to accept them as normal.

One of the most visible consequences of this phenomenon is that we have lost track of the impact each of us has on the people we work with.

What it means to have a sense of purpose

Can we then draw on that place that exists in each of us, and use that positive force that resides there, to make the world around us a little more kind, fair and pleasant place?

If we want to reflect on how our life is going, many of us begin to list a series of achievements and objectives achieved, often focusing on the career.

But these are not the things that give meaning to our life. If we want to be satisfied with our life, we need a  purpose , or a sort of internal voice that guides our choices, that gives us a reason.

Once we understand what our purpose is, our decisions, from small everyday actions, to the choice of the workplace, must be congruous with our purpose. Only in this way can we be truly satisfied.

Companies manage equality issues

It is certainly not new for companies to work towards implementing policies aimed at inclusion, equality and making the workplace more pleasant for everyone. In past years, the main focus was on D&I – Diversity and Inclusion policies. Many companies were faced with employee complaint cases for discrimination, and as a result there was a rush to implement internal measures that aimed to avoid possible legal repercussions.

This was a very difficult step especially for the leaders of some companies, who suddenly found themselves having to answer for their behavior.

Forced to attend individual seminars and sessions that dealt with topics such as bullying, sexual discrimination and the like, many did not understand what was wrong with their way of doing things. It was normal to behave like this, it always had been. What mattered in the company were the targets, everything else was in the background.

For decades, especially in the western world, companies have been run by what are commonly called  alpha , wealthy white men.

This has meant that some behaviors typically attributable to this profile have become the foundation for the construction of the management class, creating a sort of barrier of access for anyone who is not part of the category.

If we stop to analyze the companies, however, we will notice a strong degree of diversity. Each individual in the workforce has a different history, a different culture. We have to start recognizing and accepting that alpha culture is toxic, and perpetuates certain behaviors that are unacceptable today.

The real obstacle to change is that this alpha group is not willing to give up its privileged position, and is doing everything possible to maintain the status quo.

The importance of people

It is becoming increasingly clear that, from small companies to multinational giants, it is necessary to give great importance to those who work there.

Several studies show that the greater the engagement – the involvement of employees in corporate life and their satisfaction – the greater the success of the company. Many leaders realize the correlation between happy employees and higher productivity.

It is important for each individual to have a sense of psychological security, or the tranquility of working within their team, of feeling comfortable in proposing ideas and solutions, of being able to use their skills and tools available to find the best way to handle a situation.

This is closely related to the sense of self – each of us should feel free to be ourselves at work, and not have to develop a different personality than we are in our private life.

Leaders tend to rate people based on their performance, based on numbers. If we want things to change for the better, companies must learn to give importance to these factors – which we can call soft stuff – soft things.

Everyone can contribute

Every person who shares a workplace is responsible for the environment that is created. If we don’t do something personally, the change won’t happen.

Many people who are leading a team recognize that something could be done to improve the morale of individuals, yet this always seems to fall into the background compared to real work, or the achievement of targets. There is a tendency to underestimate the positive impact that can result from a satisfied and satisfied team.

There are several techniques that each of us can adopt to bring a little positivity to our team. The most important thing to remember is always the individuality of each person. Each of our colleagues has their own character, culture, dreams and aspirations.